Letter from My Heart to Yours
Hey Mama,
Whew. If you’re anything like me, you’ve probably spent more time than you’d like to admit beating yourself up over the little things. I used to replay my “misses” over and over:
Not getting the daily schedule perfect.
My children not finishing every bite of dinner.
Each child reacting to discipline in completely opposite ways.
I thought motherhood came with a formula — that if I “did it right,” everyone would fall in line. But here’s the truth I had to learn the hard way: God didn’t give us formulas. He gave us little humans.
And those little humans? They are going to grow up into adults who will spend more of their lives without us than with us. That hit me one day like a wave, and I decided I couldn’t waste any more time trying to control what was never mine to control. My job isn’t to create identical copies. My job is to steward uniqueness.
Every child is different, mama. Every single one.
Some are loud, while others stay tucked quietly in their corners.
Some crave the spotlight, while others thrive in the stillness of home.
Some inhale everything on their plates, while others have allergies, food sensitivities, or textures they just can’t handle.
Some are wild and adventurous, while others are thoughtful and reserved.
And all of it is okay.
Somewhere along the way, culture convinced us that “good parenting” means all our children should act, respond, and perform the same. That’s a lie. When I finally leaned into their differences — instead of fighting them — everything shifted.
I stopped parenting from comparison and started parenting from curiosity.
I no longer punished myself when one child thrived under structure and another needed flexibility.
I stopped expecting my quiet child to be like my bold one.
I released the idea that every meal had to look like a Pinterest board.
And you know what? That’s when I began to notice the small wins.
I saw smiles that used to be missing.
I heard laughter where there used to be tension.
I felt connection instead of chaos.
Motherhood is less about “getting it right” and more about being fully present in the little moments that matter most.
So this week, mama, I want to invite you to celebrate small wins.
If everyone made it out the door without tears, that’s a win.
If one child tried a new food, that’s a win.
If you slowed down long enough to listen to your teen’s random ramblings, that’s a win.
And if you took a deep breath instead of reacting immediately… mama, that’s a win too.
God made you the mama on purpose — with the exact children He entrusted to your care. They weren’t meant to fit into anyone’s mold, and neither were you.
Let’s stop striving for perfection and start leaning into His grace. Because that’s where peace lives.
Cheering you on,
Malecia
Reflection Questions
Which of your children’s unique traits have been the hardest for you to accept — and why?
What small win can you celebrate this week, no matter how tiny it feels?
How can you intentionally connect with each child according to their differences instead of treating them the same?
Scripture to Anchor Your Heart
“For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.”
— Ephesians 2:10
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